The fantasy we all look for but will it ever come true? Free-Photos / Pixabay
You may need to set up a business to achieve your mission and, if you are called to marry, you need a spouse who will support you in your mission rather than hold you back.
John has discovered he has a women and children’s ministry (as explained in my upcoming book on parenting). As part of his life mission he is called to be a Dad to under-fathered women and to use his authority as a man with children to help them acquire discipline for life. This role requires there to be moments of intimacy between his ‘children’ and himself although John has never been unfaithful to his wife Sarah.
But Sarah does not understand why he is spending all his time on other women and other people’s children? She lashes out at John and constantly belittles his need to get his affection outside the home. John now feels out of place at home and stays out for longer hours. Their marriage is in trouble.
Cynthia and Joanna started a local bakery together. Cynthia always knew that the reason for this business was to support the community and give back whilst making a reasonable profit. She jokes that the richer folk would buy the sweet cakes and provide the money to ‘sweeten’ the lives of those less well-off in the community whom Cynthia feels called to help as part of her life mission.
But Joanna has other ideas. She wants to go global, develop the business into a franchise, sell it and then retire a rich woman. As Joanna contributed the most money to the business Cynthia feels she has little say in its future. She has lost all her joy at coming in to work and dreads the day when the business is sold to the highest bidder and everyone in the community will see that she was just another profiteer. Their partnership is floundering.
What Makes A Great Partnership?
Great partnerships are much more than the mere coming together of two or more people to tackle everyday tasks. I believe there are at least three things that make partnerships great.
A truly great partnership is where people are on a joint mission united by similar values and enriched by complementary life outlooks.
As you go through this article ask yourself if it would be possible to meet these criteria for a great partnership if you or your intended partners do not know yourselves.
A Joint Mission
To enter into a meaningful partnership you need to know your God-given mission in life – what were you created for? What has God sent you here to do?
Your partner(s) is/are coming to help you achieve your mission either in your work or your personal life – they cannot do that if you do not know what that mission is. Neither can they help you if they don’t know what their missions are to decide if your missions are really compatible.
Important personal values that need to considered in partnerships relate to money and the use of it (spend or save), sex (how often, what type), social status (the desire to mingle with ‘other classes’?), parenting style (liberal or authoritarian?), employment options (wife to work or stay at home?), time spent on others (bringing needy cases home versus keeping them at arm’s length) and, of course, religious/ spiritual beliefs (Muslims marrying Christians or vice versa).
Complementary Outlooks/ Kente Codes
People have different ways of viewing and approaching life. The two life outlooks of the Navigator and the Collaborator are both necessary for a healthy partnership centered around a joint mission whether it is raising a family or saving the world! You can find out more at the Kente Code website coming soon.
This is a BRIEF overview of what makes great partnerships and why knowing yourself and your mission is essential! You can find much more in my upcoming book on partnerships.