Efua Follows Her Heart
In the beginning, my father told me I was clever so I should do Accounting. I made an impact in the class. I was writing accounting exams and getting passes but not distinctions. I couldn’t sit down for long to work accountancy. Accountancy is all about practicals but I preferred reading. I realised some part of me was lost.
When you do something notable and you are being praised, you ‘feel’ it. All I felt was that the praise was not deserved because I did not feel I had achieved anything.
I was succeeding because I was “clever” not because my heart was in my work. I could memorize information and retrieve it well (chew and poor) but I was not exploring. I didn’t want to do things because others were doing them. I wanted my achievements to be unique.
I feared telling my father that he should direct the money for my fees into another line of study. I was doing a business course. I wanted something that involved meeting people. I wanted to do Personnel Management where I could help people. My mission is to help people to be their best – I have the Social Holland Code (see below).
When I finished my accounting course, I could not get a job, so I applied for training at an NGO, Media Youth Project. I have always dreamt of working with an NGO. At the interview, the questions asked were things I had spent so much time thinking about concerning making the right career choice. I also liked the leadership angle of the Project. I may not be a ‘great’ person but I know I can lead.
The rest, as they say, is history. Instead of a job I found my mission and my calling – to work with children. I feel so fulfilled and I can see that anything I turn my hands to is now making a REAL impact.
I thank God that my courage not to settle for second best but to follow my heart has finally paid off!
Dr. John Holland (1919–2008) of John Hopkins University in the United States was a psychologist who created the career development model known as the Holland Occupational Themes often called the Holland Codes (RIASEC). Each of us has the six Holland Codes but your top three Holland Codes are important so you can match them to a course and a career that calls for your combination and order of Codes.
What's Your Mission?
I had everything that a man could think he wants but it meant nothing…it meant NOTHING…it was then that I was unhappiest.
This is African-American rapper DMX, speaking in VH1’s Behind The Music, about how he felt at the height of his ‘success’. Do you ever wonder why so many immensely talented ‘stars’, despite their wealth, fame and power, often experience an emptiness which sends them down a road of a meaningless, self-centered existence that is characterized by materialism, drink, drugs and sexual promiscuity ending in disaster? They are supposed to have EVERYTHING, aren’t they?
Well, there is one thing many of them don’t have – they don’t have much idea about what their REAL mission is in life. And it is not to make money, to be famous or to be top of the charts!
Many talented superstars are unaware of their TRUE mission in life – the REASON for which their talents have been given to them. So in the midst of great accolades for their undoubtedly great talent they do not experience any real, LASTING peace or joy because their celebrated lives have NO CONTEXT.
And for many, not knowing their true God-given mission in life is direct a result of the fact that they don’t really know themselves. The type of parenting they had will give us a clue as to how much of a true adult a particular celebrity is. DMX was abandoned by his father and brought up by an abusive mother who vented her frustration about his father’s absence on the boy. Relatives talk about him being seen with belt marks across his back.
The lack of a father to name and claim DMX combined with the physical abuse from his mother made DMX a danger to himself and he plunged into a downward spiral of self-destruction.