Confidence comes from knowing yourself and your mission. I learnt fast that if I were to go through life being a stranger to myself I was never going to achieve any semblance of greatness because my greatness relies on me discovering my uniqueness and tapping into it. That is the way I will leave my mark on the world and be of service to others. Anything else ultimately does not work.
Some people believe that we do not have unique missions as individuals and, with the wide range of choices available in life today, we can each do anything that we decide to do. But the aim is not to waste your time doing what someone else can do better but to do what you are UNIQUELY designed to do!
Many intelligent people pass exams and appear to be good in a particular field but their true mission lies elsewhere! You need to understand how you were designed.
Looking in the mirror takes courage and up to this point in your life you probably have had to build your confidence on your own by achieving impressive feats even as the fearful people around who lack confidence themselves tried to keep you down – now I am going to be asking you to reconsider almost everything you ‘know’.
Why Knowing Yourself Is So Important
Knowing yourself means defining yourself based on what lies within you rather than trying to live up to popular external images of who you think family, friends or popular culture say you should be.
It is about knowing the strengths and natural limitations of your personality. It about discovering the chain that links your interests, passions and talents.
It would be a tragedy for you to go through life being a stranger to yourself. You may be popular when you play to the crowd but people who play to the crowd have to give them what they want which is usually more of the same – that is not ‘making a difference’!
The feeling that we are making a difference is where our true satisfaction in life lies.
So what does knowing yourself involve?
Knowing yourself means understanding your motives for doing what you do and defining your values.
Knowing yourself means identifying the fears that are holding you back and challenging them.
Knowing yourself means understanding the habits you have, such as people pleasing, and how they are holding you back.
Knowing yourself means understanding what makes you truly fulfilled even as you serve others.
The Coach Ghana Initiative has coaches, tools and programs to help you discover how wonderful you are.
As you get to discover who you are you will get to know why you are here – your mission.
Why Knowing Your Mission Is So Important
Knowing your mission means knowing why you have been sent to Earth at this time, at this place.
One great tool to help you understand both WHO YOU ARE and THE NATURE OF YOUR MISSION is the excellent Holland Codes model by Dr. John Holland.
Your top Holland Code will determine the nature of your mission. For example, if your top Holland Code is Social then your mission involves working with people to better their lives.
Discovering your mission brings us to the third very important question to ask yourself – WHOSE am I?
Why Knowing Whose You Are Is So Important
In asking ‘Who am I?’ we need to also ask ‘WHOSE am I?’
Your answer to why you have been given your gifts and your mission will greatly be influenced by who you are accountable to in life.
If you believe, in the words on one pop song that ‘you only have to answer to yourself’ then your answer will be very different from someone who believes they have been sent here on a mission by God Himself.
We all need to be validated but we cannot truly validate ourselves and we need Someone bigger than ourselves in our lives. There is a limit to what other humans, who are often as broken as us, can offer us.
When you REALLY understand what it means to be fearfully and wonderfully made and that you are the apple of God’s eye then you know how special each of us, all made in His image, are!
Knowing yourself, understanding whose you are and discovering your mission are the three vital steps in the first stage of your journey to becoming a TRUE adult.
You can read articles about knowing yourself, understanding whose you are and discovering your mission below including the inspiring story of one lady who went from being insecure to presenting news on TV!
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As you begin to discover your mission you can start to consider your choice of career. READ MORE HERE in the next section.