Happily Ever After?

In Ghana, we often marry people for reasons that are shaky.

I have counselled people who got married because one of them had been good to the other whilst he or she was going through school or had a sickness. It seemed a god idea to marry them out of gratitude.

Many people get married because they had sex outside marriage and they now face a pregnancy.

Many people marry without understanding why they are marrying or who they are marrying. Many don’t even know ourselves.

If you are called to marry, you need a spouse who will support you in your mission not one who will hold you back.

John has discovered he has a women and children’s ministry (as explained in my upcoming book on parenting). As part of his life mission he is called to be a Dad to under-fathered women and to use his authority as a man with children to help them acquire discipline for life. This role requires there to be moments of intimacy between his ‘children’ and himself although John has never been unfaithful to his wife Sarah.

But Sarah does not understand why he is spending all his time on other women and other people’s children? She lashes out at John and constantly belittles his need to get his affection outside the home. John now feels out of place at home and stays out for longer hours. Their marriage is in trouble.